26 Ways To Spot A "Husband Material"

After reading Joro Olumofin's 26 ways to spot a "wife material, I decided to serve this to the ladies .
Please find below 26 ways to spot a "Husband Material "

1. He fights fair:
A guy who's husband material takes a step back and becomes the voice of reason in the midst of your most volatile arguments.

2. He's game.
A guy who's husband material hangs out with you at your cool spots even if it's really not his thing. He's a paddy

3. He's there for you when you need him, even if it’s inconvenient for him
A partnership will sometimes require sacrifice and compromise. Life is unpredictable and unexpected. You can’t predict what will happen and nothing can possibly go as planned 100% of the time. A guy who is husband-material will be there for you when you need him, he will be in it with you, he will be your partner in whatever happens and will weather the storm with you, even though he might prefer to stay in the sunshine.

4. He loves your good qualities, and accepts and embraces the bad without making you feel guilty for having flaws.
You don’t need to hide your true self from him and put on a front in order to be what you think he wants. You can share your true self and be vulnerable and feel safe doing so, knowing that if anything it will make him feel even closer to you.

5. He Considers you when making decisions, both big and small.
A relationship is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Factoring you in shows that he respects you, that he wants to create a life with you, not simply envelope you in his world. Our worlds can be comfortable, it’s not always easy taking someone else into account, factoring in their wants and needs and preferences, but that’s what a relationship is.
6. He is growth-oriented.
No one is perfect, we all have flaws. And these flaws aren’t black and white- usually a person’s greatest strength is a hint to their greatest weakness. In a relationship, his behavior affects you (and vice versa) and sometimes his less developed traits will have a negative impact on you. A growth oriented guy will want to strengthen his character and work on it. A guy who isn’t growth oriented will say your problem and this is the way he is and you need to deal with it.

7. He views you as his partner.
The relationship is something more than just you and him… together, you and him are a team. And as that team, you are both individually stronger than you could be on your own. He sees you as his equal, as someone of great value who he can grow with, not someone who is there to feed his ego, give him validation, be his emotional crutch, be there to satisfy his needs.

8. He is willing to put effort into the relationship
If there is a problem, he wants to find a way to solve it, he wants to work harder, to be better, to be his best self.

9.You are able to communicate with each other, even about tough issues and even if one person is upset with the other.
With the right guy, you won’t be afraid of brining up certain things for fear of rocking the boat. You know he respects you and will see what you have to say as valid and important. Every relationship will face its share of obstacles. There will be fights, miscommunications, arguments, and also times when one partner isn’t feeling loved. The only way to emerge from the tough times better and stronger is to work through them together and this starts with open communication.

10. He’s trustworthy
You feel safe being open and honest with him and are not afraid of him violating that trust or using anything against you. You trust that he won’t leave you unexpectedly, that he is genuine, that he does mean what he says. You don’t feel an underlying sense of suspicion, like he has some ulterior motives. You trust that he cares about you deeply and would never intentionally hurt you.

11. He respects your personal time:
Whether this is a night out with your guy friends or allowing you to have a day to yourself, he respects that and doesn’t ask you questions. You are free to spend your time as you please.

12. He takes care of you:
Your man should want to do nice things for you. This can include buying you a spa day or cook you dinner and start a bubble bath for you when you had a long day. He knows how hard you work and wants you to be relaxed.
13. His intentions are true:
Dating someone is the most annoying thing in the world when you never know what their intentions are. Things like not answering you all day or ignoring you won’t happen when he’s the one.

He speaks highly of you to his friends and family:
It does not matter if you did something nice for him like his laundry or you got a huge promotion at work, he never puts you down or is insecure to let people know he is with you. He raves about everything you do.

15. He knows what you want:
Whether this is your favorite Nibbles ice cream when it’s that time of the month or how you like to be pampered , he pays attention to what you like and what you want and will do everything he can to make that happen.

16. He's responsible with his money:
If you are with someone who spends every dime from his paycheck on festivals and you are the one who ends up buying dinner for you both every night, he’s not the one. You need someone who can take care of you, especially when things are rough or something happens on a rainy day. Not someone who blows his money the second he gets it.

He's not a degenerate:
There are many men out there that love to gamble, drink and do drugs. Eventually, this will interfere with your relationship and it will get the best of you. Going out and partying every night or coming home broke from a night at the casino is not a good look.

He's intellectually curious and his values matches yours:
You need someone who will want to keep learning and enjoys it. This will make you want to learn and experience more which will in turn make you a more intelligent person just by being with him. You both have good values and will push each other to reach your goals.

He likes to lead a healthy lifestyle:He works out and eats healthy which will make you want to do the same. There’s nothing better than a couple that trains together

He doesn't make you feel left out:
No matter where you two are together, he doesn’t leave you and make you feel left out. He always makes sure you are good because when you are good, he is good. He also doesn’t have to impress the whole room he is in by making them laugh or talking to every single person there, leaving you behind.

He's Patient:
A man who doesn’t put you down because you don’t understand something is a man to keep. He is patient with you no matter if it’s waiting for you to get ready or trying to find a location that you said you “knew how to get to”.

He's reliable:
When he says he is going to do something, he does it. There is nothing worse than a person who doesn’t do what they say they are going to do. This way you can actually make long term future plans and it will happen. He’s not all talk.

He's selfless and humble:
A guy who does things for other people besides himself is so f*cking hot. When he doesn’t treat people like sh*t, tips well, doesn’t look down upon others, you know you have a keeper. He wants to give back to others because that is a greater feeling for him than any other.

He's confident:There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident. Dating a p*ssy makes you insecure because they are always trying to please other people and they usually don’t have the right intentions. A confident man will own himself and his lady, so no matter what room you are walking into, people know who he is and who he is with.

He's family oriented:You want someone who will put your family first when the time comes, so a man who enjoys time with his family is someone you want to be with.

26. You are crazy about each other:
You wake up everyday and thank your lucky stars you found each other. He has been there through the good and the bad and you couldn’t imagine life without him. You are crazy about him and everything he represents. And that makes him crazy for you.

With these few points of mine, I hope I've been able to give you a hint on how to spot that husband material *winks*

Don't forget to invite me for your wedding.

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